How do you change the way you come off? Self-awareness is one of the critical factors that is a game changer. The behavior you demonstrate and the effect you have on others need monitoring. No matter how good your behavior effects others, one false move can undo 99 good moves. Learn to keep an eye on open for pace and subtle clues for feedback.
Pay attention to the things you do that creates attraction as well as the things you do that cut off it. One attraction killing trait will undo 99 positive attraction characteristics. One needs to extract any negative behavior in order to come across attractively. A strong self-awareness is a must!
The art of making a woman feel totally attracted and comfortable with you is a feel as you go method. Sexual tension is created using a little good humored teasing, throwing in a little cockiness and playing hard to get.
Even if things are going along gangbusters, if you exhibit negative behavior, you'll be out of the big picture. If you get too mushy to fast you'll get tossed or be in constant danger of being replaced. If you follow her lead all of the time you'll cut off chances to exert personal authority. Eventually you get tossed into the manure heap and lose any chance to regain your dignity.
No whining, no revealing the tender feelings and walking on eggshells for her approval. These are attraction killers. Living an interesting life a demonstrating a strong sense of personal authority gives a woman pause to notice. If you don't demonstrate strong behavior, she'll be looking for someone who will challenge her.
It's a matter of self-preservation. If you are not doing the right things to challenge her, she'll see it as a character flaw. A woman wants to feel a distinctive attractive quality for their man to the point of addiction.
Even after you begin dating, if you let your guard down you are in for trouble. If a women begins to feel she has total command over you, you lose favor in her eyes.
The idea is never to let a woman feel she has entirely ruled you. There needs to be some resistance and mystery. Every women really desires a secure Alpha male in her life.
Consumer Reports “CR’s Guide to Online Dating Sites.” is unbiased, do not accept advertising and operates in a way that is unbiased. The companies they recommend can’t buy in and manipulate Consumer Reports magazine to give a favorable score on their behalf. Consumer Reports highlights eHarmony , Match.com and Yahoo Personals as being the best of breed
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If you’re there for the basics, Yahoo Personals and Match.com are the next best bet eHarmony and Yahoo Personals have a compatibility test which pair you up with likes and dislikes issues. Set up a private email account with Hotmail, Google or some independent email company so you can monitor your email.
eHarmony is a great site since it has more women then men. My guess is that most guys don’t have the patience to fill out the long “personality test.” Eharmony also allows you to post multiple pictures of yourself. Post action shots as well as pictures of you relaxed.
Match.com allows for an extended profile of yourself so write as much as you can about yourself. As with any sales letter, long copy sells better. Match.com bypasses the Q and A of Eharmony so you need to make your email stand out.
Yahoo Personals allows you to post multiple photos and chat and has good advice on how to get the hottest photo of yourself and post those photos.
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"Go forth to meet the shadowy future without fear and with a manly heart." – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, the poet
When you meet someone it is important to ask questions and listen. When a topic comes up that you know something about or you like you paraphrase that.
For instance, if someone says the like are in town to visit a modern art museum and you happen to like that type of art you would paraphrase that thought by saying "I love modern art! How long have you been fascinated by art"
Or if she says something about being from California, you would say "Wow, I love California, how long have you been living in California?"
In general you want to ask her questions about personal things she is interested in and she’ll know you are interested in her by your excitement of the subject. You are asking her to tell you more about and are excited to hear creates ATTRACTION in her because of the energy surround the shared interest.
This energy and excitement is FLIRTING.
When you take it further by teasing her a little bit and displaying some tonality in your voice and attractive body language and eye contact you convey romantic intent.
Say you go out and get turned down 3 times a week and get one phone number per week. Or, if you’re the guy who bumps into four new girls a year and gets one phone number. What’s the difference? Consistency and getting off your butt and going for it. If you want to date a woman you have to play the game and get out there. You can’t let the fight go out of you.
When you're single, meeting women can get to the level of being a part time job. Going out night after night on the hunt invests valuable time honing your RAPPORT skills, BODY LANGUAGE techniques and APPROACH LINES so they become natural and effortless and easy. You have to be able to make new friends and talk to strangers by getting into the habit of starting conversations and getting them to talk about themselves.
If you create an active network of friends, meeting women who will be open to dates and contacts becomes much easier. You naturally have to meet people to build this social network.
If you have your game down and you’re confident, your attraction value to women goes up immensely. When you’re quick on your feet armed with a few routines and have had the chance to practice in bars and clubs to build up your skills, you’re well on your way. Opportunities disappear quickly so you have to be aware and capitalize on them when they become available.
Starting conversations with strangers and getting those girls to talk about themselves is a must have skill. Most are starving for attention and with a little prodding you’ll have much to listen to, if you so choose.
Bars and clubs are good places to practice because there’s a huge number of women available in one place. When you practice your skills, confidence gained from these encounter experiences builds. Even department store malls are a place to practice your skills. There the sales girls are paid to be nice to you. Need I say more?
The more confident you become in your ability to attract women the more success you will experience as these women pick up on behavioral cues you give off. When you act casual and laid back, confident, display good body posture and mannerisms, things begin to happen.
Women care about the chemistry. Women become addicted to the HIGH caused by chemicals released during the initial stages of a new relationship.
When an affair ends they may become depressed or angry with mates who bceome boring and routine since the brain chemicals cease their flow. Withdraw triggers an awareness that they could be "more happier" in a NEW relationship.
Women are not attracted by looks, age or income but about the attractions the feel, the CHEMISTRY as they often refer to it.
Before you start you need to know how to create attraction. If you don't know it cold, learn it. You'll soon be on your way triggering those chemicals in a womans mellon that will give her the high of her life.
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Before you ask a girl out on a date, the FIRST THING you have to ask yourself is: "How to I rate in her book?" Is she into you, is there a deep attraction or is it so-so.
When you call or see her you need to communicate your desire for her so she'll know that you want more than a friendship. But do it in a way that’s not over-the-top in her book. See it from her perspective. You don't want her to think you just want to be friends either.
If she's on the fence about you, you'll have to work some charm and flirt with her, even if it subtle, so when you ask her out you don't surprise her and catch her off guard. If you didn’t set her up so she’s not expecting you to ask her out, you might just scare her into saying no. So develop a feeling of RAPPORT and have fun.
A women’s hierarchy needs to be understand. She’ll compare you with other men. She’ll compare you with men in her past even with the new guy on the job.
Women are never attracted to weakness and men acting in a submissive or needy way. When you start off on the right foot the emotion ATTRACTION starts it's motor inside her. Kind-a like the purring of a cat.
Women don't choose attraction, they FEEL attraction.
However, you do see weak men marry. Often it's because she's been courted by the same guy for many years and finally gives in, and/or it's for money or he's the best she can get. But she'll never feel attraction for him.
Women are attracted to James Bond types, Russell Crowe in the Gladiator type characters. When relationships sour, women become annoyed and if the man acts more and more weak and distressed. It's a viscous cycle. Weakness upon weakness and the attraction that was disappears. The guy's left wondering what went wrong? Some men even reduce to gut-less begging or guilt inducing projection manipulations.
The guy thinks: If somehow I could-a/would-a/should-a just tell her how much I really loved her she would not have left. Wrong! What you need to do is make yourself into a universally attractive to any women sort of guy.
In the nice guy world your taught to believe in, doing nice things for a woman who's left you doesn't cut it. Buying presents, flowers … etc. isn't going to do it. Going to the fortune teller won't. Magic incantations won't do it. You don't want to be "just friends" with her. You need to stop being available.
Get busy with your life, go to the gym, meet other women and date them. If you wind up talking to her and want to tell her you have to run and get ready for a date, MAKE SURE it is an ACTUAL date. Don't be a phony since most women have a built in bullshit detector. Learn to de-wussify yourself permanently by incorporating strong manly character traits.
When and if you do finally get your shot win your ex with the new universally attractive you.
There is no magic bullet when it comes to building rapport with beautiful women. None. No scripts, story routines or lines that will work without involving what YOU bring to the table.
You are limited by what you can make people think say or do and will end up frustrated if you attack from that attitude. The KEY is not trying to change or manipulate someone's thinking or feelings. The KEY is to control what YOU think, do and say.
By controlling yourself and displaying PROOF that you're a man, you can influence others around you. If you act attractive, believe and think that way, women will find you attractive, someone they want to be around. But try to CONVINCE someone that you are something - they'll run for cover.
Girls and other beautiful women are on the lookout for someone showcasing their stuff, not an empty, no quality windbag.
One way to initiate change is in your INNER DIALOG. You'll need to identify and eliminate negative talk and replace them with positive affirmations when the inner dialog pops in. Take the affirmation "I will meet and enjoy meeting new people." It may sound corny to your mind gate meter, but after keeping that dialog up you'll notice little things changing. Without thinking, your personality is changing. When it happens you'll realize an amazing feeling. The REAL deal is actually getting to a point where you BELIEVE it… so you can start actually DOING it.|
The way you speak and your inner dialog will have a direct effect on your dating life. If you say, "I hope I'll impress a girl" or "I hope my dating skill improves" nothing is going to change. You've heard it said, "How do you get to Carnegie Hall? The answer lies in practice, practice, and practice."
If you do not have faith in yourself, nobody is going to have faith in you. Change comes from doing. You got to get out there and practice.
.•: I hope my attraction and report skill is going to improve.
.•: I am going to try to get more dates.
.•: I keep taking advice but nothing seems to help.
.•: I should have had a better opening line the first nine.
.•: I would have done better the first time if only I had my lucky wingman with me.
.•: I could have done better on the try if only I did forget my opening line. It threw off my game.
.•: I should be dating at least a few women by now.
Using the game of golf as an example, Jack Nicklaus said, "Confidence is the golfer's greatest weapon." Meg Mallon, Women's Open champion said: "It's confidence, confidence, confidence, confidence."
One can not succeed at being pretty good or the very best unless they practice. Lee Trevino said if you practice enough and get tremendous amount of confidence, and that's where confidence comes from.
A good game comes from practice. If you practice, you have confidence. You have confidence because you've practiced. Not only will you withstand pressure situations; you'll have a greater perspective on the entire dating game.
